Postpartum weight loss pressure is toxic and can be dangerous
One of my favourite mom blogger, Heather from @mothermoonstruck shared this picture on her stories from @feedinglittles and I just couldn’t shake the outrage I felt the more I thought about it.
After only a couple days of giving birth to my Instagram account inbox BLEW up with these messages from women promoting postpartum weight loss, diet pills, keto coffee, programs, shakes ,wraps, you name it.
Most messages I just didn’t respond to and a lot I made the point of saying that I wasn’t interested in loosing my baby weight at the moment but thanks anyway. Man now reading this and truly taking the time to reflect back at how frustrating it was to constantly get those messages and honestly the insensitive or the lack of knowledge and experience regarding “health and nutrition” now blows my mind.
I’m a constant advocate of women supporting each other and being kind to one another and the more times that I read this picture that was shared the more I realized that this is a topic we should be discussing even at a level as high as challenging Instagram’s Community Guidelines regarding harassment and bullying.
I felt EXTREMELY harassed by these women trying to sell their pyramid scheme products to me constantly throughout my day and now having many unfiltered conversations with other mothers and women regarding this issue I will completely back that it is 100% bullying.
For the rest of my life I will be in a constant battle and working towards living a happy, fulfilled and balanced life with my Depression, Anxiety Disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and currently Postpartum Depression.
I know that if I didn’t have the support I had when I first gave birth to my son and wasn’t as balanced as I was hormonally and mentally, these messages would have severely affected my confident and inner thoughts.
As a new mom you are already dealing with SO much emotionally and mentally and are getting used to yourself, this new body that created this perfect angel, but everything is foreign and everything is really tough , stop adding one more thing to push a women off the edge mentally and can be harmful for her health , mentally and physically.
When thinking about writing this piece I reached out to my followers (mostly made up of the most AMAZING women and mothers) and a few mom bloggers who I knew would have awesome opinions and stories to share to help spark confidence and inspire us to love ourselves just the way we are!
Jessica Chiarello is a first time mom to a beautiful baby girl, Valentina. I reached out to Jessica to see if she would be interested in giving her advice and opinion on this subject being a fitness professional and focusing on her clients health before weight loss.
The biggest issue that I have with these women contacting us about weight loss is that there is such a lack of knowledge about the health aspect and no ounce of gueniune caring and support on the subject. You feel that its all about the bottom line ad the sales pitch and I’m sorry we aren’t here for that.
When you are feeling ready to dedicate some more self care and time to work on yourself mind and body, please reach out to professionals, who are educated and have good intentions about your health and well being, like Jessica does.
This is the piece Jessica wrote :
As a new mother and a health and fitness professional, I know the importance of postpartum recovery. Not only physically but mentally. The last thing a woman needs after giving birth is to have someone making them feel like they need to lose weight with a magic pill, tea, wrap or whatever product that is trying to be pushed. It is a time to recover and nourish your body. Not time to be looking for a quick fix or trying the next fad diet. Eating healthy, whole foods, proper rest and slowly integrating the right types of exercise for postpartum recovery is what the focus should be.
I personally haven’t been bombarded with too many messages as such. Probably because my Instagram bio states that I am a trainer so these companies know not to bug me! I do however get all sorts of offers to join groups or teams so I can “help” other women (or jump on the next pyramid scheme band wagon) which is just as annoying! Although social media can be a great place to advertise and promote any business, I think it’s time we shed light on this issue and let women know that they don’t need to fall into these traps when they are in one of the most fragile states of their lives.
If you’re seeking guidance, my best suggestion is do your research and look for a coach with experience who can make a custom game plan for you based on your specific needs and goals. They should be based off your personal stats including weight, height, activity level, health history etc.. If a coach isn’t screening you first and asking these kinds of questions, that should be your first red flag. There are so many “coaches” out there who sell generic programs, meal plans or other products that claim to get you results in an unrealistic timeframe. In reality, weight loss should be the last thing you’re worried about after giving birth. If you’re taking care of your body and eating well, the weight will naturally start to come off in good time. Your main concern should be repairing your pelvic floor and core muscles and stretching as I elaborate on in my most recent blog post: https://fitmamasblog.com/
As for anyone else being targeted for fat loss gimmicks, keep in mind that if you’re just starting off, a trainer should be helping you learn how to move properly and perform primal movements correctly before decreasing body fat % or building muscle as the primary focus. Yes, these are the result of eating well and exercising but the main focus at first should be mobility and proper movement patterns.
All that being said, don’t feel pressured to lose weight because you’ve been targeted with this type of cyber bullying. Be kind to yourself and love your body no matter what.
Personal Trainer and Lifestyle Coach
Instagram : @fitmamasblog
I also reached out to Heather from @mothermoonstruck, who shared this post on her Instagram. I loved her point of view and opinion on the subject and she was more then willing to be apart of this important conversation.
This is the piece that Heather wrote:
I’m very thankful that I’m mentally strong and I’m able to just brush this targeting off without another thought. I’ve been solicited dozens of times during my two pregnancies and post partum periods and it sickens me every time. My heart goes out to the women who are struggling postpartum and aren’t able to just brush it off. Pregnancy and early postpartum are such an emotionally hard time and especially when women have issues with PPD or are working out issues with their partner or families, this type of targeting can be so detrimental to their healing and mental state. It is absolutely not okay for someone to tell a woman that they are not good enough when it comes on their body or anything else. THIS is exactly why women can develop eating disorders, low self-esteem, and why they can end up passes these things onto their children as they grow.
I recently started following Kristyn from @mrsdingman.mama for her AMAZING attitude towards loving her post partum body and she wrote a piece for this post!
Many people can relate to the daily messages sent by coaches, ambassadors and others who target those of us who promote positive body images. Every day, a new business reaches out to get me to join their weight loss program (aka pyramid scheme). Sure, you have a business to run and it’s your job to seek out potential clients, but at what cost? Why do you feel the need to prey on women who are empowering themselves? It has come to a point where it’s not just annoying — it’s extremely insulting. If these people did some research and were genuinely interested in getting my business, they should take a look at ONE of my posts which clearly expresses how in love I am with who I am. Every curve, stretch mark and pound I have is something to celebrate and is worth so much more than your diet pill and shakes. I am enough and I love the skin I’m in.
I had many women message me that preferred to stay anonymous, that said how upset these messages and proposals to loss weight make them. One of my friends who’s a nurse and 7 months pregnant already has been propositioned to buy product that she said in her pitch “snap back” right after birth, my friend told her to fuck off!
The thing is some women who are selling this products I’m sure don’t have bad intentions and are just trying to make extra income to support their families and hit sales quotas, but in the end I think an open discussion is overdue with Instagram sharing how detrimental this can be to women’s mental health.
I propose that anytime we receive one of these messages in our inbox’s and it evokes feelings that are anything but support, body confidence and health based, report the message and account for harassment and bullying.
I’m looking forward to this journey I’ve started to completely LOVING and being KIND to my wonderful body that gave me our son!
I’m partnering with an AMAZING mom of three and entrepreneur Denne, owner of Endless Temptation’s a fabulous ETSY store.
I’m sooooo sad I didn’t find her shop while I got engaged for my bridesmaids gifts , they are stunning and at SUCH good price points. She has beautiful robes and swimsuits that can be customised ( again at AMAZING prices) for us mama bears!
These are the two swim suits Denne so gracious is gifting me for my upcoming trips down south and I working on getting up the courage to rock this bikini with the confidence of Queen B herself!
In the next coming months I will be starting a body positive campaign showcasing real life Ottawa moms, their beautiful post partum bodies with their beautiful babies beside.
Get your post partum swim suits now and contact me to join this movement and join in on our photoshoot campaign to help empower all those gorgeous worthy mamas out their who may be struggling with their new mama self image!